Oscars “life” for the forseeable future will be in Prison. I agree it is tragic that someone with Oscars talents should turn out to be a rotten apple.

But that is life. You do the crime , you do the time.

In that regard , Oscar is no different to any other criminal.

Yes, Jedie, you are totally right. He did take the law into his own hands. I don’t know if he’ll ever be able to forgive himself no matter the outcome in court.
This whole situation was a total tragedy. A tragedy for Reeva. A tragedy for him.
Softly I kiss your eyes
Gaynor

Firstly, C, I didn’t write the article. I merely introduced it. It was written by Heather Malcherczyk. The reason I allowed her to publish on my blog: I had only been hearing bad things regarding Oscar. Here was someone who offered a different viewpoint.
You say that terrible things have been said about Reeva. I didn’t know that and think that is despicable. My heart aches for her family. I see her Mother sitting in that court room day after day and my heart cracks for her. I feel utter admiration and respect for Reeva’s parents. If you were to present me with a piece written on Reeva, it would be published in the same way as I did the one on Oscar!
And C, of course Oscar is guilty! There is no doubt of that whatsoever. He shot her, as he claims. What they are trying to establish is whether it was pre-meditated or not. Whatever the verdict, Oscar is going to have to live with himself, whether it’s in prison or out!
And who is saying that Reeva is to be blamed for “the fall of an icon”? I certainly didn’t nor did Heather Malcherczyk!
But thank you for reading my blog. Unfortunately you read things into it that were not intended.
I am sorry about that.
Gently I kiss your eyes
Gaynor

Big smile! I arrive in England on the 25th. Would love to meet you for tea. I will e-mail you, Heather.
Thank you……
Gently I kiss your eyes
Gaynor

Lesley, whatever the outcome of the trial, Oscar will be facing a lifetime sentence. Yes, I agree the Pistorius family have reacted with dignity throughout. Lesley, so too have the Steenkamp family.
And yes, you’re right. Every part of his life has been scrutinised and as I saw on FB there was a lot of ridicule. With those four shots all sense of privacy vanished! That was one of the reasons I let Heather Malcherczyk have her say.
Thank you for reading my blog, Leslie. You will smile at tomorrow’s!
With a smile I kiss your eyes
Gaynor

Big smile! Yes, Avril, we do have a gracious Judge Masipa and I hope and pray that justice will be done. With leaders like Mandela and Tutu one does expect better behaviour from us as South Africans! That was one of the reasons I liked Heather Malcherczyk article. Basically, it was saying: What are we as South Africans doing???
Thank you for reading my blog. I think that you will smile at tomorrow’s!
With a smile I kiss your eyes
Gaynor

Yes, Leslie, you are right. Forgiving himself will be this massive process. I wonder if he will ever be able to reach that place? Re-building his life will be a long drawn out process. As I said in my introduction, the Blade Runner as we knew him disappeared with those four shots.
The death of Reeva, his firing of those shots…oohhhh, what an unbelievable tragedy!
Softly I kiss your eyes
Gaynor

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I’ve read your comments and understand your empathy for Oscar Pistorious in his hour of need. I do agree with your request for forgiveness which should apply to anyone who does wrong. And that’s the important bit. You don’t seem to point out the fact that he did wrong. Whether he murdered Reeva or an intruder, he is guilty. Yes, innocent until proven guilty is exactly right, but, Oscar already has said he shot whoever was behind that toilet door. That is not “innocent” until proven guilty. You are pointing out a fact about the legal system that does not apply to this case as Oscar has admitted he fired the gun that killed someone. What has to be investigated and searched for is, did he know Reeva was in the toilet and is guilty of premediated murder or did he really shoot out of fear of a burglar. Most cases are innocent until proven guilty when the wrongdoer refuses to admit any wrong doing whatsoever. But in this case, we already know he is guilty of killing someone.

Furthermore, your lack of commentry regarding the dead person is worrying as even if it was a burglar, that life too would be as important as anyone else. What I find really disturbing about your comments is, it is all about Oscar as if he is the victim and almost forgetting about the death of Reeva in a most brutal way imaginable. Yes you gave her a line here and there, but it is so sad that you spend so much time and words on Oscar to the point that I hope Reeva’s family don’t read your words for their own sakes.

I understand your comments regarding the blood lusting for revenge. Revenge is never the answer. But not everyone will be of the same mind and to spend too much time getting emotional about a different kind of mindset will not relieve how you feel. If you are that forgiving, can’t you forgive those who want vengence?

You talk about the prosecutor with a lot of venom which I find very unhealthy for anyone. To me it almost mirrors some of those attacks on Oscar by commentators. Have you looked at how the Defence lawyer treated the state witness’s? This is how it is in a court and especially in a murder trial. Read up on it. It’s not grandstanding by either of them, nor for the tv. It’s very very common. The best way to view this case is to have an open mind until something in evidence points to unfortunate killing of an intruder ( already admitted so far ) or the premeditated murder of someone. In either case, Oscar killed someone. He was not being attacked by anyone, so, self defence is not a defence. Oscar threw his life away by not sticking to the rules of gun ownership. That is very sad for him, but cannot be overlooked as a simple mistake. Someone lost their life. This is very important and is what the whole case is about. Not just about a icon who achieved great things in sport. That is no way to look at this very serious case. One has to remove oneself from all this past history of Oscar and be realistic to the central point of this issue and be objective enough to realise anyone can kill someone no matter how well they may be regarded.

Reeva must have gone through torture. First shot must have really shocked her poor body and the pain I can’t imagine. Then the further shots must have been a realisation that she is going to be murdered followed by the last shot and no more Reeva. This is what her poor family have as Reeva’s last memories.

I have reservations about sending a person like Oscar with his disabilities to a normal prison although I dare say, some with disabilities have suffered this. But, if he is found guilty of the charge of murder, plus, the other three charges, I feel that he should go into a medical wing for his own safety as all people who are charged with a crime who are disabled. I would never wish to see Oscar suffer any torment in any confinement as it is obvious he will suffer enough torment for the rest of his life from his own conscience whether it was diliberate and he is lying ( if he is lying, he will suffer greatly in his own mind regardless of anything else ), or, because he really did think it was a intruder.

I think it is very sad for Oscar’s family who want to support him and watch how he is being judged. It must be very harrowing for them. It must be heartbreaking for them. They have no alternative but to be supportive and indeed biased in his favour which is understandable. This can’t excuse Oscar’s behaviour. I hope I am never in their position.

I also hope I am never in Reeva’s family’s position and especially not have to read comments like yours which are sadly so biased as to imply that the victim in all of this is Oscar. But, they are a forgiving family I have noted from interviews so you will be reassured by that I hope.

Don’t forget, the Steenkamp family have had to put up with the most disgusting abuse regarding their daughter Reeva since she was killed and yet, they still hold their dignity. Have you seen some of the names they have called Reeva since her death? Have you seen some of the accusations and allegations made against Reeva since her death? How about you do a blog on that? Fair is fair. Real life is about justice. That is what we are all fighting for. That is what we all strive for.

I don’t disregard your right to have views, but, I find a onesided view lacks tolerance and real forgiveness. I really do hope Oscar can find it in his heart to take responsibility for his wrongdoing and that will give him more peace of mind than someone projecting on social media him as the only victim. Tough love is crucial and the only saviour for Oscar under these circumstances.

I would never wish ill will on anyone no matter the circumstances. But, wake up folks. Be realistic. Reality can be harsh, but in the end it is the only answer and truth will prevail. Love is the only reality. Sometimes it can take a few reminders which may come across as digs which are not intended to be mean, but can nudge someone out of their comfortable blinkered mindset.

It’s just far to easy and comfy to fool oneself. It gives such a nice warm feeling of righteousness and a self superior importance to point the finger just because some are blood thirsty for revenge. But it never excuses the fact that someone innocent got killed and that poor girl is forgotten and almost blamed for the downfall of a icon.

What on Earth is going on??? Have we really lost our sanity so badly???